As I make this journey in the dating world, I wonder often if I will know it when I see it. What will I know? What is it I will see? Will we both see “it” at the same time?
I have a friend, Trisha, that met her soulmate on a plane. He sat down next to her and they started talking. She said after a few minutes she just wanted to lay her head on his shoulder and say, “there you are!” Did he know on the airplane too? Here it is years later and they are getting married. They are so cute together. When she shares her story, she lights up. How did she know he was the one?
I have met some people in the last several years of dating that “felt” right. I didn’t think, “this is the ONE” but I knew they felt different than the people I had met and couldn’t flee fast enough. Was it their energy, their smile, their voice, their eyes, our conversation, or the questions they asked? What was it?
I’ve learned recently finding a kindred spirit doesn’t make a romantic relationship. Is two people looking for and focusing on the same thing where the creation starts? Do you have to be looking for your person to find them? I’ve heard women talk about meeting men that said they would never marry again, then behold, they produce a ring and get married. When do we listen to what is said? When do we throw that out and think they will marry again?
In October of 2017 I decided I wanted to marry again. My wounds had healed, my broken parts were beautifully put back together, my heart was open, and I felt a soft longing. I was longing for a deep connection, a man to build a future with, fun, security, trust, and a plan to forge forward into the great unknown…..together. Yes, I used the word “together”.
Will I recognize the right man when I see him? Will he feel right from the start? Will he be looking for the same thing as me? I am looking for a great man to share a great relationship. While I have found great men, the relationship part hasn’t happened. My journey will continue until I find it. Until then, I will just keep looking!